There is a distinct difference between self-indulgence and self-compassion… However, many of us don’t realize this, and (women especially) deny ourselves both.
Self-compassion is essentially the practice of treating yourself with the same compassion you would a good friend. The three elements of self-compassion are:
1. Self-kindness vs. Self-judgment
2. Common humanity vs. Isolation
3. Mindfulness vs. Over-identification
Dr. Kristin Neff features a self-compassion inventory on her site (in addition to lots and lots of resources and tools…) :
Go ahead! Test yourself!
My overall score is 2.75. Which means I’m moderately self-compassionate. Not bad considering I have a toxic inner critic;)
What do you think about the concept of self-compassion? Do you believe it to be an essential part of cultivating wholeness and a continued sense of personal well-being?